Season 1 Ep.19 - Maneuvering Mindset with Mariel & Josh

Mariel and Josh discussed the impact of sunlight on their mindsets, the importance of mindset, and the concept of a growth mindset. They also explored the significance of self-compassion, the evolution of personal identity, and the impact of past trauma and neglect on their present behaviors. Lastly, they discussed reframing their self-narratives, recognizing and accepting patterns in life, and the challenges of public speaking. The conversation highlighted the importance of changing negative self-talk, rewriting narratives, and using positive self-talk to improve mindset and performance.

Mariel and Josh had an engaging conversation about the impact of sunlight on their mindsets, with Josh sharing his observations about how the change of season affects his inner dialogue. Mariel agreed, sharing her own experiences and how the lack of sunshine can lead to a heavier self-talk and even depression. They ended the discussion with Josh expressing his appreciation for the idea that mindset, including a growth mindset, is an ingredient that contributes to people's experiences.

Josh and Mariel discussed the importance of mindset and how it can be manipulated for a more positive outlook. Mariel shared her admiration for Marisa Peers, who teaches courses on changing one's narrative and thought patterns. 

Josh shared his struggle with maintaining a growth mindset while launching and managing his business. He discussed how he had fallen into a negative mindset and how a conversation with a child about a lost race car race inspired him to change his perspective. Mariel then shared a similar experience with her own child and how changing the narrative from "I can't do it" to "I'm learning" can empower and help take control of the situation. The importance of the growth mindset was emphasized throughout the conversation.

Mariel and Josh discussed the importance of self-compassion in personal growth and its potential to extend to others. Josh highlighted the challenge of offering compassion to oneself, particularly in areas of personal shortcomings. Mariel emphasized the need to reframe negative self-talk, using the example of improving relationships. Both agreed on the importance of acknowledging and accepting the difficulties of relationship building, and emphasized the need for commitment and communication to succeed in relationships.

Josh and Mariel discussed the concept of personal identity and its evolution over time. Josh shared his perspective on the importance of self-awareness and the brain's tendency to make statements and then work to fulfill them. Mariel agreed, noting that people often hold onto parts of their identity as if they are immutable, while Josh suggested that self-discovery can occur through investing in oneself. They both agreed that personal identity is not static and that individuals can and do change over time.

Josh and Mariel discussed the importance of reframing their self-narratives. Josh suggested that by telling themselves different, potentially untrue, stories about themselves, they could open up to a different future. Mariel agreed, acknowledging that this could be uncomfortable and awkward at first, but emphasized that with repetition, it becomes more natural. They also touched upon the concept of 'overnight success', with Mariel pointing out that what appears as an overnight success is usually the result of years of hard work. Josh concluded by highlighting that everyone is already repeating stories, whether they are self-condemning or not, and that this repetition shapes their reality.

Links:

Marisa Peer  https://rtt.com/whatisrtt/

marisapeer.com